Even though I've known all my real life friends for a long time and we rarely fight, I would hate it if something in-game would happen that would devastate a friendship, as I know thats happened before. My friends and I would love a drama-free community of active players, while it is close to impossible. But that's what we'll strive for.
Thanks for your time,
Katey 70 Paladin (Maelstrom <The Shadow Watch>)
Raymund 70 Druid (Silver Hand <Order of the Rose>)
Thank you for writing, Katey and Raymund. Your plan sounds like a great idea to me! Since you've both been officers in the past, I'm sure you know the amount of time and effort that can go into it. Sharing the load is never a bad thing. Also, since you both have your respective areas of expertise, you won't be stepping on each other's toes too much.
However, being co-leaders is very different from being officers. You'll have to make some difficult decisions sometimes. Without a single person in charge, it will be easy to pass the buck back and forth indefinitely until the issue blows up. So I recommend designating one of you to be the "official drama-solver." The other person should balance that out by taking on some of the other unpleasant assignments, like dealing with all the DKP stuff or setting up and maintaining the bank.
Another question to consider: What if the two of you disagree on an important issue? What's the tiebreaker? Do you put it to a vote among the other officers? Flip a coin? Duel for it? It seems like one of you would be the final decision-maker on PvE issues and the other on PvP issues. But not every problem can be divided into those categories. What if there's an applicant that one of you wants to invite but the other doesn't? Figure out your tiebreaker policy now and save yourselves some grief in the future.
Speaking of applicants, I assume you will be adding more members beyond the six or seven you know in real life. Prepare yourselves for friction between this RL crew and the members you only know from the game, particularly for the first few recruits. Joining a guild where 90% of the members know each other in real life is a bit like joining a fraternity/sorority. You feel like you have to prove yourself to this group. But in the meantime, you don't know how anyone is going to react to you right away. You don't know the inside jokes, so a lot of the social conversations are just baffling. So make an effort to integrate the new people and make them feel welcome.
Above all, avoid a scenario where the RL friends are their own elite clique. If want to minimize your drama, you won't favor them over the other members. There can be no special unspoken loot rules or auto-invites for raids just because they're a friend. Most importantly, you'll have to be fair and impartial when a dispute arises. As a friend, you'll want to support the people that you know and trust. But as the co-GL's, you have to put yourselves above that and resolve the argument without bias. Treating your friends like VIP's and everyone else like a second-class citizen is a surefire way to make sure no one but your friends remains in the guild for very long.
Your friends may be expecting to get a free pass to act like jerks because they're friends with the GL's. Make sure they all know from Day 1 that this won't be the case. If they know ahead of time that sometimes you'll have to wear your GL hat and make a tough decision for the good of the guild, hopefully they'll be more understanding when a problem comes up.
If you can avoid all these pitfalls, you will have a much better chance to succeed as a guild. I applaud you for taking on the responsibilities and providing your friends with a community where you can all have fun together. As for some tips on getting started, let me refer you to this column I wrote a few months ago about starting a new guild. If you're looking for logistics info, there's this handy FAQ on guild creation, courtesy of Ashling on Greymane. Good luck, you two!
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