... As it turns out a subsection of our members intend on quitting the game for guild wars 2, including our Recruitment officer and Guild Master - many of these I have spent years gaming with. ... With the loss of our gm, an officer and some of our core members I really don't think the guild has much of a chance of surviving and I really don't have it in me to go through that again. Guild Wars 2 has very little that interests me ... I have no intention of jumping ship full time - I'll probably give it a go at launch and just check in for content updates ...
I've been an officer in the guild since early 2010 and have since become the raid leader. I'm probably the most active of the officers so members tend to come to me with most of their problems and questions. One obvious option would be to become gm myself when the others jump ship ... but with most of, if not all of the people I came over with gone it just wouldn't be the same. The attachment wouldn't be there for me.
So, do you think I should leave now ... or stick it out and try to take the reigns?
A troubled officer with perhaps to much of an emotional investment
Hi, ATOWPTMOAEI. Take heart! They told you ahead of time, at least, instead of leaving you holding the bag with no warning. It could have been much worse.The right friends make the game
Good friends can make any game fun. In grad school, I'll never forget playing Super Tennis
for the Super Nintendo. Let me be frank: Super Tennis kind of sucks
. It was probably okay in 1991, but we were playing it almost ten years later, at the tail end of the N64 era. I don't even remember why we had it or why we started playing it in the first place. For some reason, though, we kept coming back to it.
We formulated whole strategies based on its simplistic controls, created lingo around certain moves and styles (what few there were), talked trash like crazy, and had a blast. Was it because Super Tennis
is secretly awesome? Not a chance. It was fun because of the people I was playing with and the culture we had created around the game. Would I have rather been playing Perfect Dark
? Sure, but I was having fun either way.
So my basic advice here is this: Give Guild Wars 2
a shot. You don't have to give up playing TOR
to do it, or give up on your guild there. It's not easy to find a group of players that you really enjoy gaming with, and you might be surprised how much fun you have when you're playing it with them, even if it's not your first choice.Game loyalty vs. friend loyalty
Yes, it's a huge bummer when you're very much into a game and your friends decide they've had enough. Keep in mind, however, that they aren't obligated to play a game forever just because you enjoy it. Don't take it personally if they want to try something new.
Changing games doesn't have to mean an end to friendships. Even if you decide that Guild Wars 2
isn't your cup of tea, you can still keep in touch with the friends you've made online. Maybe someday another MMO will come out that you can all enjoy together again. Maybe they'll want to keep playing TOR
on a more casual basis.Your guild conundrum
In my fifth anniversary column
, I wrote about a key factor of guild leadership that I think applies here: As an officer, you can control very little. You can't control what your friends will do when Guild Wars 2
releases or farther down the road. So, plan for the future that you think will happen, and don't worry about the ones that may.
Make a decision about whether you want to keep the guild going as the new guild leader. You seem like the natural choice. If you want to take that on, tell the other officers. Make sure those who will stay on are OK with it.
Then start planning for the transition. Recruit some extra raiders now and work them into the lineup as part of a rotation. Ask the players who plan to leave to gradually step down from raiding once the time of their departure approaches. It's certainly not ideal but, with some effort, you could make this kind of transition work.
The question is whether or not you want to, and only you can decide that!
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