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Drama Mamas: 20 signs it's time to leave your guild


Many of the letters the Drama Mamas receive are from players who don't actually have a problem they need or want to solve; they're simply seeking support and permission to move on. Boy, is it tough to let go! People naturally feel trepidation about leaving a known environment, even when it's the very thing making them unhappy. We cling to the familiar, losing sight of the fact that if we change nothing, nothing changes.

Sometimes, though, the best thing to do is to calmly pick up, dust off, and move on. While the columns we've linked below don't necessarily represent times the Drama Mamas thought moving on was the best or only solution, they do illustrate the tangle of denial many players find themselves in over circumstances that are right there in black and white.

You know it's time to move on when ...
  1. Your guild condones or even promotes public drama.
  2. Your guild has no firm rules.
  3. You're expending emotional energy to tolerate an atmosphere that doesn't fit what you want from a guild.
  4. You've made it a rule to refuse to group or speak with a guildmate who plays with you frequently.
  5. You don't actually play with the people in your guild -- and you're lonely.

  1. Theoretically, your guild sounds like a good fit, but it doesn't work out that way in practice.
  2. Your guild is home to a scene or person you realize you'd be better off avoiding.
  3. The reasons you're uncomfortable in your guild outweigh the reasons you "should" be having fun.
  4. Your GM is ineffective and can't (or won't) regulate the guild's operations and atmosphere.
  5. That Guy just ruins the whole thing.
  6. You want to raid, but there's no room for you on the team.
  7. Casual raiding is your thing, but your guild has changed playstyles to hardcore.
  8. The guild leader is a thief and/or a stooge.
  9. You or your significant other strayed (via chat or otherwise) with a guildie.
  10. The only reason you are staying is that the guild is made up of family.
  11. The guild culture changed and you don't want to change with it (which is perfectly fine).
  12. Your GM won't give up ownership of the guild but is never there.
  13. You want to raid casually, but your guildies can't even beat normal modes.
  14. You were falsely accused, judged, and sentenced for a guild infraction without any evidence.
  15. Loot rules aren't followed consistently.

If you wake up one morning with the feeling that something going on in game doesn't feel quite right, or you find yourself dreading logging in, listen to your inner voice! Enjoying an MMO is all about finding your tribe. Look for other players who are playing the kind of content you enjoy in the kind of atmosphere you find relaxing and enjoyable -- yes, you can have both! WoW has plenty of fun to offer. Give yourself permission to go and find it.
Dodge the drama and become that player everyone wants in their group with advice from the Drama Mamas. Remember, your mama wouldn't want to see your name on any drama. Play nice ... and when in doubt, ask the Drama Mamas at

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