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Drama Mamas: Can you keep calm and carry on?
We all choose how to react to the world around us. Nobody's exempt -- we're so much more than the sum of our knee-jerk reactions to life. Yet it's also true that harnessing raging emotions is hard, especially when things hurt, and sometimes we're just not up to the task. When continued pain seems inevitable, sometimes treating ourselves with respect means making a measured retreat. The trick is knowing which situations merit dogged perseverance and which deserve said measured retreat. Hey Drama Mamas I am a raid leader for my guild, I handle guild progression and the GM handles farming and alt runs, After a long struggle we finally are all set up to make some serious momentum in Mists of Pandaria after using DS to bolster our ranks. Furthermore about 2 years ago I brought my girlfriend into the game and guild. Recently one of the guild members we picked up in dragon soul started raiding heavily with us. He quit his other guild where he had lots of friends to join us. I am a tank and for our progression I asked him to be my Co-tank. We did arenas together for a while and became fairly close. Then the other day my girlfriend (also on the progression team) and I broke up. If that was not enough, she then started dating my Co-tank. I found out that the two of them had been in contact ever since they first raided together.
Drama Mamas: When guild officers break up
Drama Mamas Lisa Poisso and Robin Torres are experienced gamers and real-life mamas -- and just as we don't want our precious babies to be the ones kicking and wailing on the floor of the checkout lane next to the candy, neither do we want you to become known as That Guy on your realm. If you have sent a letter recently to dramamamas@wowinsider.com, we didn't get it. Please resend to robin@wowinsider.com, and use that email until we get the official Drama Mamas email sorted out. We're sorry for the inconvenience. Meanwhile, love is still in the air -- in Azeroth, anyway, and today we have another love-themed letter. Last week we talked about getting together, and this week we talk about breaking up. Dear Dramamamas. I am writing you, as I am in deep disarray. I recently broke up with my girlfriend, after a 2year long relationship. I know that is not much for many people, but for me it is. The relationship were kind of doomed from the start, as I was an army officer with hunger for adventure, and her a beauty with hunger for a settled life. When we met, we quickly found a common ground; World of Warcraft. We started playing together, and after a few failed attempts trying to find the perfect guild, we finally found this pristine little gem.
The guild broke up... amicably?
Tipster Ryan Carter tells us that his former guild, and the Action News Team, is doing the unthinkable and breaking up without calling each other names, trying to steal each other's loot before quitting the game forever, or the other delightful consequences of guilds being dismantled. A post on the main page of their website containing a screenshot of the GM's decision seems also remarkably free of the bile, rancour or disdain I've come to expect from guild breakups. Our tipster tells us that some folks want to move on to raiding while others have joined a new guild he and his wife have started, and the GM post does seem to corroborate that it's just a case of folks wanting different things out of the guild.Part of me wonders if this can possibly be on the level: surely there's some weird drama going on with all guilds, yes? My first guild, way back in my old alliance days (this is when Maraudon and Dire Maul were new, let me put it that way) exploded in an orgy of recrimination when our first player to 60 wanted to go raid and left to do so. I later followed that player to a raid guild before a combination of real life and burn out led me to leave for the Horde, and my current guild raids but casually... so I've seen a few different guild management styles by now, and usually there seems to be more of a 'seething-cauldron-of-petty-emotion' burbling under the surface when a guild busts up. But in this case, I hope it is true and they're all riding off into their own individual sunsets. Vaya con dios, and the Action News Team, vaya con dios.How about you, gentle readers? Have you any tales of painless guild disbands to share?
Breakfast topic: Breaking up is hard to do in Azeroth
The end of a relationship can be a painful thing. Sometimes you see it coming from miles away, and are able to part ways while still remaining friends. Sometimes you get blindsided by the news and spend months depressed or drinking until you come to terms with it. And sometimes it's bad enough that you'll carry seething resentment towards the person for years and years. Breakups are always tough, but they can be even tougher if both members of the couple play WoW. Suddenly, instead of your breakup being a private thing, a ton of other people are involved -- namely, your guild. Can both of you keep playing in the same guild without causing trouble? If you don't feel you can keep playing together, who gets to stay in the guild and who has to go? And if the couple are officers or guild leaders, can this tear apart your guild? I've seen a few breakups in WoW where both members of the couple continued playing in the same guild without any trouble. However, I've seen quite a few more that ended in quitting, server transfers, or total destruction of the guild. What is the etiquette for breaking up in Azeroth? Would you find it hard to be guilded with an ex? Do you have any stories from the trenches of guild love?
