Drama Mama Lisa: Romeo, welcome to real life -- because make no mistake about it, a relationship with someone you've met online is nothing if not real life. It's not a game. It's not trivial. It's not any less important or valid or meaningful because you met in WoW. If anything, you have a stronger potential to share common interests with someone you've met through a hobby like WoW than someone you met randomly at some bar downtown. So congratulations on that!
Now, what's your bottom line about how to approach this? Well, there's the obvious issue of verifying that she is who she says she is. If you're already chatting with her on social networks, you're well on the way to having this covered.
Most people would suggest taking the plunge and professing your interest to her at this point, but I'd take a slightly different approach. Online romances tend to be sweeping, consuming affairs, and it's hard to sort out whether you like a person in person if you've already convinced yourself you're madly in love. Why not find out where she's from and try to arrange a more casual meetup, before things go any further? Maybe a weekend meetup of guildmates from your region? At the very least, try to find a time to talk privately in Vent (if not by phone) on a friendly basis about things outside the game.
If you don't click, it's much better to know now rather than later, and it'll be easier to preserve an enjoyable friendship if you're not already busily lacing the strings of a romantic relationship.
Drama Mama Robin: I completely agree with Lisa about trying to meet this potential romantic partner in person before you proceed too much farther. Online romances are so intense; it is very easy to get caught up in the purified interactions that don't include the physical realities. How you both communicate online in both group and one-on-one settings doesn't always reflect the same communication in the physical world. It would be best for any popular future together to see if you both like the way each other looks, smells, gesticulates, etc., before you go past the point of no return.
Of course, if you are geographically distant from each other, this can be difficult. But if you don't, you may find yourself incompatible -- or worse. So allow me to be a cautionary tale.
I was in a great guild in EQ in which we did a lot of group activities together. We played together for over a year, getting to know each other to the point of becoming good friends. There was this one guy who all the women thought was rather dreamy. He was intelligent, knowledgeable, chivalrous, fun-loving ... /romantic sigh ... He and I became romantically involved online, exchanged photos, chatted on the phone, etc. It was head-over-heels, heart-thumping, glasses-steaming, online romance at its most intense.
We lived across a continent from each other and decided after a few weeks that rather than meeting and going from there, we would just move in together. I know it sounds completely stupid, but we were in love, and people have been successfully dating as penpals for generations, right?
Anyway, neither of us had misrepresented ourselves, but we don't always know ourselves, do we? It soon became clear that we were completely incompatible, and the signs were all ones that we would have discovered if we had actually physically dated. Some very scary drama happened as well, which I also could have avoided with some good, old-fashioned social interaction in the physical world. Yes, this is an extreme case and yes, there are many success stories -- but it doesn't mean something similar or worse couldn't and doesn't happen to others. It won't hurt to protect yourself (and enjoy yourself, for that matter) by really, really getting to know this woman who interests you while you are still thinking rationally.
I do think that you can find genuine (and safe) love in WoW, if appropriate precautions are taken. So move this potential romance to the physical world, and just supplement your "real" dating with your time in Azeroth.
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