Drama Mamas: Friends like these
Drama Mamas Lisa Poisso and Robin Torres are experienced gamers and real-life mamas -- and just as we don't want our precious babies to be the ones kicking and wailing on the floor of the checkout lane next to the candy, neither do we want you to become known as That Guy on your realm.
When a couple makes a friend pick a side in an argument, it's not conducive to a good friendship.
First of all, pardon my english and grammar, because it was never my first language.
I need a help regarding my mistake.
I always interested on WOW but i always quit playing when i reach the level cap but crawling back for the new expansion.
But it was all changed when i met this couple that changed my gaming life entirely. They become my best friends, way better than my real life best friends. They care about me, every time i log in they always greed me, and we even share our secrets.
But during the last patch of cataclysm, these couple got engage. Im so happy for them, but they started to argue with each other and asking me to take a side, which is very uncomfortable for me because i love them both.
And not long after that, the guy starting to change. He barely play with me, he always leave me with her fiance, and he always log off without a word.
And everytime they both login at the same time, they always argue, and sometimes i had to stop my daily quests or leave my newly joined raid because they keep inviting me to their group just to show me what were they arguing about.
I thought that i could handle that but i cant, and i start to get bored with the game and i also got busy with my new job, so i took a break and i forgot to tell them.
And couple months later, i got a free MoP expansion and decided to give it a try, and to my surprise, they still greet me!
I was so happy i cried a little because they still want to be my friends.
But turns out that their bad habbit was still there. They inviting me to the group and start arguing again. And that time i was really depressed, due to my real life issue, so i log off and i uninstall the game.
And now i really miss them and i wanted to play this game again so i could be friends with them again.
But im scared if i couldnt meet them, and i also scared if i did.
I already send a couple emails and texts but i got no reply. might be becahse they hate me or i got the wrong address.
What should i do if i meet them again?
And can i survive the game without them?
Drama Mama Robin: I honestly don't see why you are happy for a couple to get married when they are constantly fighting. And it's very selfish of them to involve you in their arguments. The friendship you used to have with them is gone and has been replaced with you being nothing but a sounding board for them to abuse.
The real question you have to ask yourself is if you think you will have fun playing WoW without them. If there are things you would like to do alone or if you're willing to find new friends, then reinstall. If not, then don't go back.
I'm sorry you miss them, but they haven't been the friends you got so close to for quite a while. And I'm certain that if they were happy to see you again after you returned, they will still fall back to their fighting ways.
If you do return, you have to speak up. You can try to play with them again, but the moment they try to pull you into their fights, you need to tell them they are making you uncomfortable and that you have to leave. Then do so.
There are plenty of things you can do alone in WoW until you find new friends (or until they go back to being good friends, if they ever do). You can have a farm and get yourself a cloud serpent. And there are plenty of stories to grind through, like the latest fun in the Barrens (which will be gone next patch). Or if you don't like dailies, pet battles are fun. There's also the Brawler's Guild if you are into the fight club kinda thing. And if you are willing to group with strangers, you've got the Raid and Dungeon finders as well as Scenarios. The World of Warcraft has never had more to do at max level than ever before and most of it can be done without regular gaming buddies.
Just remember, you shouldn't have to put up with friends who are no longer friendly and are just using you. And you also shouldn't play a game unless you're having fun. Good luck and let us know what happens.
Drama Mama Lisa: I'm not playing with my gaming buddies right now, either, and I miss them! (Although I won't have to miss them much longer; they're getting ready to play Battlefield 4 this fall and will be bellowing so loudly that I'll be able to hear the TeamSpeak echoes even upstairs in bed with a pillow over my head -- but that's another story ...) Gaming buddies are what the MMO experience is all about, to my way of thinking, and I'm not surprised you both miss this couple and shudder with fear at the prospect of living through their cycle of drama yet again.
What you need are some new gaming buddies. Are you in a guild that does things you're interested in? That's a great place to start. Decide what new parts of the game interest you most and dive into them. At that point, you'll be in the perfect position to start looking for new gaming buddies.
Meanwhile, hit a happy medium when dealing with this couple and their spats and battles. You don't have to accept their group invitations and then put up with their nonsense, but neither do you have to cut off relations and never play with them again. The beauty of making more gaming buddies is that you can hang out with this couple when times are good, but if they begin fighting, you can give a friendly wave and head off to other groups and activities.
Let us know how it goes once you've been in for a while -- and welcome back to the game!
Dodge the drama and become that player everyone wants in their group with a little help and insight from the Drama Mamas. Play nice ... and when in doubt, ask the Drama Mamas at robin@wowinsider.com. Read Robin's section of this post on how to get your letter answered and please remember that we cannot answer privately.
